Mens Dating Advice Guide
This article is not for you if you're currently dating someone,
married or have had what others would call a successful date in the
past few months (if you were successful you would be hooked up by now
and not reading this). This article is for you if you're having
trouble finding women to date, too shy to ask for a date or feel that
your dates want to either jam a pencil in their eye or run away
If you already have a date,
or have no trouble finding dates, click here.
Does Dating Seem Daunting?
Of course it's daunting; if it was easy it wouldn't be any fun. Ever
hear the phrase "fight or flight?" It means that you have two options
when you encounter something that elicits fear - stand up to the
problem and face it like the man you are or run away with your tail
between your legs. Sure, you might get beaten up a few times but its
all a part of life. After while, you'll start thinking of yourself as
the alpha male complete with scars and kung-fu grip.
Defining a "Great Woman"
A great women is someone that has some interest in sharing what
interests you - and vice versa. Since 'great' will mean something
different to everybody, before you start dating a great woman, you
have to be a great - confident, self assured and more importantly,
self fulfilled - man.
Finding Great Women to Date
If you like
books, go to a bookstore. If you like stamp collecting, go to a stamp
collectors convention. If you want to be a ninja, go take a class on
ninja-type kung-fu stuff. If you have a lot of friends, throw a party.
Make yourself available and you WILL find great women doing the things
you like to do.
Making contact does not imply tackling your potential mate. It means
getting her to notice you. How do you do that? If you know what's good
for you, very carefully. Here are a few steps to follow since you have
actually found a great woman to date:
Make Across the Room Eye Contact
Do your best not
to seem creepy - this means using a moderate smile with your mouth
closed. If you have not met or don't know the great woman you are
after, it's best not to stare. This means once eye contact is made,
don't keep your gaze on her. A good rule is no more than 1.5 to 2
seconds. After that, look down and turn away.
- The Approach
If eye contact has been made, get in her line of sight and walk
right up. If eye contact has not been made, be stealthy and walk up
and stand in the general vicinity. Don't interrupt if she's in
a conversation, just wait for an opening and keep eyes and ears on
her. Patience is key, manners are crucial. Remember, mouth shut,
moderate smile. You might even pick up on something to enter into
- The Line
No doubt the most crucial part of the effort. While funny is great,
honest, calm and cool is much better. Instead of some dorky "Did you
hurt yourself when you fell from heaven" line, how about something
along the lines of (in order of the conversation):
Hi, my name is "INSERT YOUR NAME HERE."
Are you having a good time?
Who do you know here?
While these are not ice
breakers, they get your proverbial foot in (or if she's an awful
person, out) the door. If the conversation is not flowing don't be
afraid to let it go. Just remember, it's a numbers game. As a
last resort try one of these:
My friend wants to know if you think I'm cute.
I was once up for the show - Joe-Hundredaire.
Do you like Chinese Throwing Stars?
Making Your Move:
It's sort of like tearing a band-aid off; one quick smooth motion.
Would you like to go out with me sometime? That's it. Don't suggest
something to do, don't suggest a day. Put the ball in her court with
no restrictions. If she says yes, you rule. Smile like you have never
smiled before and say great. If she says no, don't push it, and please
don't beg, just say the following, "OK, doesn't hurt to try, right?"
Keep smiling, you may just make eye contact with someone else as your
heart is being ripped out which will lessen the pain.
Just the Facts Ma'am
Get the number, get the email, just get a way to contact her before
you leave or she leaves. You'll be glad you did. Now, all you have to
do is read the next article in this series - "A Great Date"
great article on scheduling and having a great date.